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Love, and other profound states"

What would it take to honestly tell someone you loved them, if they have done something destructive towards you?

I’m wondering what it would take for me…I think I’d have to have a deep understanding of my own self, of my own values and my highest ideology, so that I was not attached to anything in the outside world. If this were true, is there anything anyone else could do to me that I could not look past, and be able to honestly say that I love them, because I would see myself in them and in everything that they do?

I’d have to have healed my past, corrected the injustices I had done to myself and others, and be totally ok with my very real and human impulse to be destructive in any form. I would have to be able to see any act of destruction as an effect (not a cause) of who the person is, by realizing that my destructive acts do not make me who I am, but that they are effects of me. I would have to acknowledge that I am, at least in part, responsible for the state of our world, and of the environment that this person grew up in that influenced them to choose to believe that being destructive in any form is a means to an end that is good.

If I could do that, I would consider my time on this earth worthwhile."

M."

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